Pronouns Matter

You can’t tell a person’s gender identity or pronouns by looking at them! Leaving it up to only gender expansive folx to have to give their pronouns is a form of exclusion. When everyone shares their pronouns, it creates a safer and more inclusive space for everyone.

Using they/them in the singular may be the most challenging pronouns to get used to (in English anyway), but the main thing is to make the effort. It does get easier, and the difference, of even making an effort, for people who identify as nonbinary and use they/them pronouns is noticeable. If you are really struggling with this, simply try not using pronouns at all and just use their first name to refer to them. It may seem or feel “impersonal” to you at first, but not misgendering someone will feel really inclusive to them.

If someone’s pronouns are something you haven’t seen before, such as neo pronouns or even a combination such as “she/they” refrain from pointing that out to them. This is part of compassionate communication and being inclusive. If they bring it up, great, if not, you can satisfy your own curiosity right here on this thing called the Internet, later.

If you do not know someone’s pronouns, please use “they/them” until you get to know them well enough that they share their pronouns with you.

As language learners of Italian, it can be challenging to carve an inclusive niche in a highly binary gendered language. We are big fans of Inclusive Italian, as well as our teacher, Michele, at Intrepid Italian. Michele is knowledgeable of the use of the schwa and long schwa and has helped us with to be consistent with our grammar as we are learning a language that is new to us and a way to use it that is pretty much new to everyone!

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